Before You Meet

Prepare: Think of a few questions and talking points ahead of time to avoid awkward silences.

Be Punctual: Arriving on time or a few minutes early shows you are dependable and respectful.

Dress Appropriately: Choose an outfit that is clean, appropriate for the occasion, and in which you feel confident and comfortable.

Adopt a Positive Mindset: Expect good things to happen. Assuming a positive outcome can help you feel more at ease and project a more welcoming energy.

During the Interaction

Positive Body Language: Stand or sit with an open posture (uncrossed arms and legs), smile genuinely, and maintain appropriate eye contact. A firm handshake can also set a positive tone.

Active Listening: Most people enjoy talking about themselves, so be a good listener. Nod, make brief acknowledging remarks, and avoid interrupting.

Ask Open-Ended Questions: Show sincere interest in their thoughts and experiences. Ask questions that go beyond a simple “yes” or “no” answer, such as “What was that like for you?” or “Tell me more about that”.

Use Their Name: Saying the person’s name a few times (e.g., “Nice to meet you, John”) can help you remember it and make them feel valued.

Be Authentic: While you should put your best foot forward, don’t try to be someone you’re not. Genuineness fosters trust and connection.

Keep it Positive: Avoid controversial or negative topics like politics or past grievances during a first meeting.

Mind Your Tone: Speak clearly and at a measured pace. Your tone of voice and enthusiasm can be as important as the words you use.